Can a computer really help you find love? Facebook, Twitter, and other social media sites all have their own unique place in society. But the popularity of online dating sites is at an all-time high. It used to be only a place for nerds or geeks to feel comfortable communicating with the opposite sex. Now, it’s a socially acceptable way for anyone to find a mate.
Online dating has its benefits. Today’s professionals rarely have the time to “go out” and meet someone. If the woman of my dreams is not in aisle 6 at Walmart, I may never meet anyone. Besides, the club scene is old and dated. Dating sites give you the ability to browse hundreds of single woman’s profiles and choose who you want to communicate with.
Sounds great, right? Don’t get too excited. They have some drawbacks too.
People aren’t always honest. Shocker!!! If she’s 40 and the pic looks like a high school yearbook headshot, be afraid. In addition to that, online dating can be expensive. As a man, I was raised to pick up the tab for dinner, movies, drinks, etc. But after 5, 10 or 50 dates, it gets costly! On first dates, try meet and greets. Meet at a Starbucks or other local coffee-house. It’s public, so you won’t look like a stalker. The worst that can happen is you’re out a couple bucks on a latte. Believe me… This is valuable advice after several $80-$100 meals with someone you know your not going to ever see again.
So, can you really find love online. Yes you can, but there are some other things to remember.
First of all, be honest when you create your profile. Don’t try to be someone you’re not. Living a lie will only work short-term. Karma can be rough. You may think you can beat the system, but think again. For example, what if you do find the woman of your dreams? It’s over before it can begin. She’ll never forgive or trust you. So if you are serious about meeting someone, just be yourself. If she can’t love you for who you really are, move on…
Everyone knows that men are usually more visual than women. You know, the whole Venus and Mars thing. There is some truth to that. But, don’t just look at the pictures in the profile. READ the profile too. Find out as much about the person you are trying to meet as possible. Remember, you aren’t the only person checking them out. Don’t just send out “flirts” or copy and paste a mindless email. Try to connect with her. Not only will it increase your chances of getting a response, she’ll also appreciate that you made an attempt to communicate.
Be careful not to get addicted. Trust me… It happens more frequently than you might think. Looking for “perfection” is not only time-consuming, it doesn’t exist. Find someone who is perfect for you. That’s the best you’ll ever do.
Finally, a computer can only give you part of the equation when it comes to relationships. It gives you access to people you would probably never meet, locally and long distance. It can be a time-saving tool. We are all busy these days. But it will never replace the chemistry between two people falling in love.
